Wednesday, February 15, 2006

“Love is like an hourglass, with the heart filling up as the brain empties” - Jules Renard

Valentines day. I looked at it with suspicious disdain growing up. What is it but a loud reminder to a pink confetti soundtrack that you are a) alone b) with someone too daft to get good dinner reservations three months in advance? Surely the latter has ended many a romance in full bloom. Call me the Scrooge of Valentines Day but why show my love on one particular day of the year more than any other? But then again, why not? A nice steak at Morton's followed by the best chocolate cake in the world in Kashif's company is welcome any day of the week, any day of the year.

Please forgive the cheese with a side order of cheese, but many years ago I read this poem by Khalil Gibran... utterly befuddled. I now understand the wisdom of his words and share with you my favorite poem on the ever exhausted subject of love.

You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore. You shall be together when white wings of death scatter your days. Aye, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God. But let there be spaces in your togetherness, And let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Love one another but make not a bond of love: Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls. Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup. Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf. Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone, Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music. Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping. For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts. And stand together, yet not too near together: For the pillars of the temple stand apart, And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow.

34 comments:

estarz said...

Sweet. Have a good one!

Maleeha said...

Awesome :) GREAT poem. I'm going to read it to Sabir. After we get home from the library :o/ (what a way to spend this night...)

mystic-soul said...

You need to be living with a person 24/7 to get to the heart of this poem. Am I right?

Aisha said...

Estarz, thanks! You too.

Maleeha, glad you liked :) btw- I shot you an email.

Mystic, no.. that's not what I got from this poem at all.. what do you think the poem means?

momyblogR said...

Wow, wow and WOW! What an amazing poem! I must admit, it's deeper than I usually travel and I could have easily drown. I didn't and I'll be reading it again.

I don't really fixate on dates such as these either. I love everyday and we steal wonderful moments along the way. A special night out could come unexpectedly and for no reason. That could easily be my Valentines Day.

And I have to tell you.....Hubby is CUUUUUUTE! (that is Hubby isn't it? lol)

koonj said...

yeah, I remember reading that "spaces in your togetherness" stuff. Makes total sense.

Auntie: "Arey Aisha, beti, shohar ko chhupa kar rakho, - koi churail peechhay lug gai, to?"

:))

Maleeha said...

i replied :)

Baraka said...

masha-Allah may Allah bless you both!

(& that's one of my favorite poems--it was also a wedding present to us :)

Aisha said...

Mommyblogr, Exactly. I think the memories I hold dearest to my heart never occurred on "specially designated" days:) Glad you liked the poem. He's a great writer. *oh and thanks :)*

Koonj: Yeah, but a lot of love struck young kids think "ohmigosh mustbetogether allthetime forthatis truelove" <- So as a teenager I thought Khalil was not so bright on this topic, but ofcourse I've come to realize he's wrong. LOL at the second half of your comment. LOL. :)

Baraka: aww thanks, and you and Basil as well. May Allah always continue to fill your hearts with love. What a sweet wedding present, I guess it was a speech? I think it was a speech at mine as well.

mystic-soul said...

What I meant, when you live with someone 24/7 - you realize that you need to keep an entity for yourself, a self-respect, a "self" despite been completely sincere to other. And that brings a bigger realization of love, respect, devotion and honesty for each other. Love with all senses to its extreme. Ability and power to love and to get love with all potentials.

(BTW Kashif is very handsome, mashaallah - "Arey Aisha, beti, shohar ko chhupa kar rakho, - koi churail peechhay lug gai, to?"
- I think he will do better without gottie - right spell?)

say what? said...

LOL @ mystic soul's comment :D

haha .. lol lol lol

Emory said...

Not sure I agree with the Poem, but do agree with you on Morton's, chocolate cake, and the company of the those you love.

ASH said...

I like the poem, to me it says....love each other completely and totally but also allow yourself and the one you love to have their own life and their own ambitions, etc. It is both a good poem and good advice.

I guess I am a scrooge on Valentine's day....I shower my wife with attention all the time so why bother with a special day? But then when I was first married I did do all the silly, dripping Valentine's day stuff. Now that I've been married 11 years, neither of us worries too much about it.

Glad you had a nice day. I would have picked 10 degrees South for dinner though.

http://www.10degreessouth.com

Aisha said...

Mystic, yeah I see what you are saying. To me the poem means many things. You can love someone and remain who you are. Many people lose their identities when they get married. Even in marriage both people are still independent souls though like the lute in the poem. To me it means that to grow you have to allow the person some room. Not to smother each other.

Emory, why do you disagree with the poem?

TDH: :)

Ash, yes I find it a very pragmatic poem :) Jo is lucky that you do that. :)

Baji said...

Great poem-a part of our wedding as well.

I never completely got the poem either, until I was married.

One should never give up their identity in marriage. It is a unity of two, not a loss of one.
I think this poem is so powerful and speakes volumes regarding how progressive Islam is.

Reza said...

I hope you always are happy and jolly together. Ameen :).

Tee said...

That is really a beautiful poem which contains great wisdom.

I can see why you'd be attracted to Kashif. Boy is he handsome! That is a great photo of him.

I have the same mixed emotions on Valentine's Day. Part of me wants to treat it like any other day and not give Hallmark and the other companies the $ they seek. Part of me thinks a day of love is a great thing.

We avoided restaurants last night because it's more stress than it's worth. I thought it would be peaceful to stay in and order pizza (oops. We're not in Blogger Biggest Loser. Can I say pizza? LOL.) Anyway, I think many people had the same idea. The first place I called (Pizza Hut) wasn't even taking orders because they were way too busy already.

Anyway, we exchanged cards and very small inexpensive gifts. :)

Champ - Love Hound said...

Wow, I loved the poem. I 've read alot of Omar Khayyam's Rubaytes. Iloved this poem though. Have you read 100/4th Version of Khayyam's collection? that one is my favorite. *Smiles*

God bless you.....

Aamina said...

Awwwwwwwww how cute :)


What a nice picture of Kashif Bhaiiiiii



I hate being single.

Aisha said...

Baji, I agree. exactly :)

Reza, aw thanks :)

Tee, thanks! :)I thought about you yesterday during Vday.. lol. I was curious how one with children would celeberate the day as they are involved too... :) And dont worry the pizza secret is safe with me. I think we're all allowed a little indiscretion on Vday ;)

Boxin thanks for sharing

Thanks Aamina! Ahem. You are like 19. Dont even get me started! :)

Raheel said...

poem from the book Prophet.. am I right? Kahlil is a genius.. he is simply the best!

Anisa said...

what an awesome poem. i love it...so true!!! beautiful.

Sohnii said...

Aisha, Kashif bhai (:D) reminds me of my best friend... looks a lot like him... but MashAllah seems like a very very nice person :D

hm... poem abt loving each other and giving each other enough space????? thats what i thot it was abt... what did u think? this is the first time i read it. But beautiful...

P.s: as usual, a really nice post :)

Anonymous said...

Your husband is a hotie!

Aisha said...

Raheel, yes that is from the Prophet. He is amazing isnt he? I feel like he was a walking bundle of innate knowlege.

Anisa, thanks, I love Gibran

Sohnii thanks for your kind words :) Yes the poem basically I think, to me, it means that you should love but you should also realize you are still you. I think a lot of women lose who they are when they get married. This poem says remain true to your heart as well. I guess :)

Anon... lol, thanks :)

Aamina said...

Thaaanks for the comment. I look the same as I did when I visited you over the summer, I just discovered makeup, hahaha.

I know I'm 18, I still hate being single , haha. Marry me off now! lol

Yeah, I'm losing it the right way, not eating fattening foods and putting in a lot of excercise into my life. OOP Lost another pound :)

Sdit. said...

Love the poem!
I think often times women lose sight of their independance and tend to hide in the husband's shadow. I like how eloquently it was stated here.

Nice glimpse into your life also =)

Jane said...

Hope you and Kashif had a lovely and romantic Valentine's Day.

Aisha said...

Aamina, no you really look different. You've always been cute though :) 18 year olds will not complain about singlehood. They shall drive cars to stores ;)

sdit: thanks!!

Jane: Thank you, hope yours was nice too:)

wayfarer said...

i love kahlil gibran. That's actually what i wanted to name my son too...

Aisha said...

Wayfarer I love the name Khalil too, but the only problem using it in the west is that americans can't say the kh sound with ease. That would be my personal reservation with choosing that name, though I love so many names with Kh in it.

rehtwo said...

Happy belated Valentine's Day to you and your husband (I must concur with all the others on the "nice picture" comments, etc. etc.) :-)!

Aisha said...

Thanks Rehtwo!!! :) Hope your Vday was special too.

Suroor said...

Feb. 14th is my wedding anniversary!

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