Friday, September 15, 2006

What would you do? Vat?

Working for the Gov't always intrigued me. (note: if and only if I dont get my Dream Job) Good hours and pay, interesting opportunities and good hours.

Dilemma: I have an opportunity to be an intern there during the school yr but they require 16-20 hours. I'm taking 17 credits (5 classes + 10 hour externship, Tues-Thurs. morning to night) But Mondays and Fridays are off. Those days I study, clean, cook, and sleep in!

When you work for the gov't its a huge process and once you get in you pretty much stay if you want. So if in my shoes, would you suck it up and use your Mondays and Fridays to work there in the hopes to stick around if "Dream Job" doesnt work out?

The advice I received is mixed. Some say DO IT. Others: do you really want to exhaust yourself and risk bad grades? I don't know. I'm the type of person that thinks I can do it all. I worked full time as a teacher and took four night classes in law school my first year. I thought I could do it, and though I DID do it... I was worn out. I want to seize all opportunities. So my instinct is to take this. But I know from personal experience I can take more than I can chew. Is this an instance of that? Or is this a wise move to take this? Advice much appreciated.

25 comments:

Anonymous said...

My initial reaction was: no! This is not only because of your heavy class load but also because you already have a job - your 10-hour externship. By the way, what does that externship entail?
But on the other hand, you know yourself best. And if you really think you could handle it, then you shouldn't let anyone talk you out of it. Numerous people tried to talk me out of my schedule now (17 credits, including Moot Court and Law Review; some extra-curricular activities; and a research assistant position with VERY minimal hours), but I did not take their advice because I thought I could do it, and I am sure I can do it. But ask me at the end of the semester whether I think it was a good idea to do it! ;-)

Rasha

Huda said...

What does Kashif think? And what are your long-term goals? Do you think this position would help you achieve those long-term goals?

It does seem like a lot, but if it will help you to your ultimate goal, then maybe you should do it. It's only one year, right?

Aisha said...

Rasha, thanks for your perspective. Moot Court AND Law Review? Mash'allah sis!! That's fabulous :0). Well, my externship is at a children's hospital, I go twice a week and do law clerk duties such as writing memos, researching and preparing presentations for doctors and parents, doing client intake, etc. Oh I also forgot to include that I'm also a Graduate Research Assisant, my assignments aren't light. I'm helping the guy write a book. I'm WRITING A CHAPTER for him that he will edit and work on. I know I could do it. Its not that I would not be able to... but I dont know if I should. I want to spend time with my family... I guess what it is my first year when I taught full time and went to school part time I was so miserable.. it was one of the hardest years of my life b/c I couldnt see anyone. All I did was work, school, study, sleep. I know this would not be the same thing, but I guess memories of that still linger. But I dont know if that fear is logical in this case... ANyways, what do you think?

Huda, Kashif thinks its up to me but said if it was him he wouldn't do it. This could help me with my long term goals if I dont get Dream Job. Yeah. It is only one yaer. I dunno :(

Sajid said...

Why not try it and if it becomes too hard just quit?

wayfarer said...

Only you know what you can handle but it does sound like a good back up plan. Don't forget to write that bestseller too. :-)

Raheel said...

you commented now you are tagged =)

I don't know you so I can't advice but if you can manage go for it. I think you have a very supporting family so you don't have to worry I guess!

momyblogR said...

I think you have good instincts and know yourself very well. It's adding much to what is already a lot but if it were me....I would DO IT!

Eventually things will being to slow down and having at position like that could be nice....Well, just until you are living your "dream."

Oh, I meant to tell you, I emailed you back, thank you! You may have gotten it but I think last time you found my email in your spam box, lol!!

Aisha said...

Saj, I'd hate to do that b/c then its breaking a comittment.

Wayfarer, seems that best seller will be on the backburner for a bit :)

Raheel, thanks for the advice :)

Mommyblogr, I got your email, it is off the spam list :) I am sorry I didn't respond yet, but I did read it. Meaningful responses beyond a sentence r two are hard to come by now that I'm catching up on studying after the job application :)Sorry!

mystic-soul said...

I will advise against mutitasking..

I don't know the whole scenario but my advise is NOT TO DO IT. Burnout mind is dangerous and mediocre. Good part of life is..opportunities continue to come on the way....

momyblogR said...

My goodness, none needed. Just happy to be off the list, lol!! Enjoy your weekend!!

Tee said...

Ugh - Here is where I'm supposed to write some wise advice but I don't have any! I am indecisive and a commitmentphobe. I still haven't told the PTA I speak Spanish because last time (a different school) I got wrangled into doing so much volunteer work translating of flyers, etc. LOL.

I can't imagine commiting myself to even half of what you're doing so telling you to take on yet another thing would be hypocritical of me. At the same time, I don't want you to miss out on something you really want.

I think this is one of those decisions only Aisha can make!

Just remember - you only live once (as far as we know. LOL.) Whether that means take the internship because you want it badly or leave it because enjoying life and family is important, I'm not sure!

Glad I could help you out. ROFL ;)

Zak said...

I'd say no...as tempting as it sounds. Consider the offer a compliment ..and move on, with the understanding that for one door closing another shall open..

Maleeha said...

hard to say Aisha. i'm in somewhat of a similar boat. trying to not take more than i can handle, b/c i really want to go do well in my classes and need to concentrate on my job search. i've already had to let go one of one responsibility i had taken on, and the guilt of falling short is overwhelming sometimes.

hope you land that dream job! i'm filling out the application for mine. its going So slow. and i have a pile of reading i need to do for my 16 credits. not fun. but we can do it inshaAllah...so long as we dont make "it" too much!

Sobia said...

I'd do it..just to have a back up. But that's just paranoid me. ha ha..Anyway, wanted to tell ya I've changed my address to sometimessobia.com ...I've been trying to get rid on that Andrei idiot..urgh!

Aisha said...

Mystic, Zak Thank you for your advice. Your advice to not do it seems to resonate with me particulaly combined with your opinion that opportunities continue to come, this won't be the last one. That's a very good point and Mystic... I'd hate to risk mediocre grades... that would be unacceptable.

Tee yours piggy back's on Mystic and Zak's in your comment on life is short and you only get on of it so what do I want to do.... that is a good point. Ad it helps me with my decision. If I have to look at why (I'd take this it is for fera not to get a job upon graduation. But Rumi says "Move- but do not move the way fear moves you" I need to figure out if my motivation is hear here, or truly that I want to do this. Oh well, I hav ea few days to make a final decisions though :)

Sobiya! Nice to see ya here :). I finally figured it out that you moved, lol! You did it because of that guy? Was he really getting that obnoxious beyond that post? I dont know why you get that since you are so sweet and don't give off any type of bad vibe. But I Guess a site as popular as yours is bound to attract strange folks as well!

Aisha said...

PS: Maleeha, I emailed you on friendster :)

mezba said...

Aisha, I did a full time course load but when I got a gov job I didn't hesitate - I dropped a couple of courses and took the job. I made up the courses later. You cannot beat the perks of a government job.

Living Away said...

Dear Aisha!

I think you answered your post already when you said: "...I know from personal experience I can take more than I can chew."
Good luck!

Aisha said...

Mezba so what if you could not have dropped your classes? Would you still have taken the job?

Leandra, long time no see :) LOL! Hmm well that is true. I can take more than I can chew... but I was trying to figure out if I was indeed going to do that if I did this. OR was this something I COULD handle.

mezba said...

Aisha, I would have if I knew I could do justice to both. I had taken the bulk of my courses in first couple of years so I could breeze through the last two and work if needed. But ya, whatever you do, you must be able to do both your job AND your studies well - so it comes down to how much you can handle - plus you got family as well.

Mia said...

okay here's my advice all late but here none the less. My advice for this is the same as it was for your trip to Brazil. Go for it. Take it, do it, sieze the moment. Follow your gut instinct if not you're always going to be wondering. You can do this you know you can so do it. We are all capable of so much more than we are we just have to give ourselves the opportunity to test the waters. I work two jobs, volunteer at a women's shelter plus I go to school full time. I have a pretty active social and romantic life and most importantly pull in fantastic grades. People always ask how do I do it. Truth is I have no freaking clue but somehow I do manage it. You and my dear are lucky we're able to multi-task beautifully. It's a gift...lol

Sobia said...

Oh gosh, your sweet, Aisha. But he kept on and on reposting and I'd just pull it down and not draw any attention to it and block him and then he'd use a new IP address and come right back. But Anyway, it just became too much work. urgh so I thought I'd go ahead and move...but I lost a lot of my readers/friends that way. :(

Chimichanga said...

I just started graduate school in a Biostat program, and I was going to take a heavy load until I talked to this "older" graduate student who said, pulling off all nighters and cramming for things (in other words, being overloaded, assuming you are not purposefully slacking) only shows that you are not really trying to learn anything but just trying to get a grade, but once you are in graduate school, you should have a mind set to "learn" something and also give yourself enough time to learn. Now I am talking about a typical graduate program, not a professional program, so I would not know. But I think it really depends on how much time you want to put in to actually learn the material, really really well! However, at the end of the day, you can "handle" it. The point is, can you live upto your standard of excellence?

Baraka said...

Salaam dear Aisha,

You know yourself best so in your place I would simply make dua for clarity.

You already know the answer, you just have to let it rise to the top.

Lots of love,
B

Aisha said...

Thanks for all your advice guys. I'm going to make a decisiosn by week's end *gulp*

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