Sunday, May 10, 2009

What you learn during times of hardship

1. Who you can turn to and lean on. Not always who you expect.
2. Who you cant turn to or lean on. Not always who you expect, but at least now you know. This too is beneficial.
3. Your strength. Sometimes you think you would fall apart under tough circumstances, but when you go to hell and back and still manage to stand, you find a new form of self respect.
4. Your fragility. We fly to the moon and create tankers that plough through streets, yet at our essence we're as fragile and delicate as puff pastry. The fact that we get up, and get out there despite this inherent fragility is the truest miracle of God.
5. Empathy. Hardship opens your eyes to the pain of others, even those whose pain is unrelated to your own.

If you're concerned by this post, I appreciate it so much. I'm fine. Just hit a rough patch which is why I was MIA, but I'm gathering myself up and learning to walk again. Sorry to be so vague, but I will be okay. I wanted to share this list because even in a tough moment, there are things I have learned. That does not make the hard time worthwhile, but at least you can take something away from it. Hope you're all well.


rickshawdiaries said...


Love to you, my friend.

- B

Sarah said...

Hi. My names Sarah. Im so glad I stumbled across this post of yours. You conveyed exactly what I was thinking into tangible words. I learned these lessons through a recent experience as well. Its good that you can see the positives in a negative, and find beauty in decay. Consider that an incredible ability and use it to learn and grow. All the best.

Wil Smith said...

Your words have often brought a smile to my face when I have been troubled. I find them insightful and warm in what can be a cold world. I highly suspect that you have done the same for many others. I hope that you have been able to find the same from outside in your time of need. I don't know the nature of your pain but I do know that I will pray for you just the same. It's great to see you back.

Anonymous said...

I ditto the above comment-- I often come to your blog whenever I need my spirits to be lifted; I treasure the optimistic attitude towards life that permeates your website. I hope that in this difficult time you will be rewarded with the uplift you need, and that you have so frequently provided to others. And if you need time to be sad and fully experience whatever you are going through, I hope you get that too --sometimes that is just what we need, coupled with the knowledge that "this too shall pass."

My prayers are with you, my dear!

Mia said...

Just browsin' on by... and this post hit me. I totally understand the "vague"...

It's #3 and the part about learning to stand up again that I'm havin' trouble with..

And to #4 - Amen.


mystic said...

I am here in case if I can be of any help (send an email)

Anonymous said...

Hope things are all right, especially with your marriage. Hugs and Best Wishes

- Zulfi

Aisha said...

Sarah, Thanks for dropping by and for your comment.

Wil Smith- wow, that is one of the nicest things someone has said to me on this blog. Thank you so much. I haven't been blogging as much lately, but its good to know that my words mean something to someone. Thank you for your prayers.

Baraka, :) *hugs*

Anon, aww, I don't know who you are, but your words touch my heart. Thank you so much for your kind words. They mean more than you can know.

Mystic, thanks!

Zulfi, thansk for your well wishes. Alhamdullilah, my marriage is fine. Thanks for the reminder that even in a hard time there are still things to be grateful for. A healthy marriage, being one of them.

mezba said...

Hope everything is fine. It's been a while but I am catching up on my blog reading again.

Anonymous said...

Glad to hear your marriage is fine. Hopefully everything else will be fine shortly as well.

Summer said...

Been thinking about you. Glad to see you blogging. :)

Aisha said...

Mezba, glad to see you back again.
Summer, thanks :)

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