Monday, January 17, 2011

Cry-it-out and the fact that he reads this blog.**

You'll never know how much the comments you left on the previous post meant to me on a particularly trying day. 'Murgdan', Susan, Kate, Muslim Wife, Mystic Soul, Raising Brainchild, Kmina, Antonia, Stephanie, Sunny, Shawna, E, Ash, and anonymous commenters, thank you for taking the time out of your busy day to leave me a word of support, advice, or simply telling me you can relate and this whole not sleeping thing? It sucks. If you found my blog searching for 'baby sleep' [or some variation thereof] please read the comments of this post. I read them to K and slowly we're building some plans- borne not of frustration, the worst space to plan from, but from carefully considered options and making a choice, should we need to, though that's another post entirely.

As it turns out, Waleed? He reads this blog. Since writing the post, he's been sleeping so what other logical conclusion can I reach? When I say sleeping, I don't mean I put him down at 8pm and he wakes up like a cheerful chimpunk at 8am. I mean he wakes three times as opposed to hourly. I sing the "Waleedie likes to do the sleepy sleep" song [while he disagrees vehemently], change his diaper, switch to PJs, put on his sleep sack and read his favorite book before nursing and off to bed. After a few minutes of false starts he drifts off, I tiptoe away, and. . . sleep. Just sleep. Until about 1am, then 4am, then 6am and then up for the day around 8am. This I can live with. This I can do at least until he's off breastmilk and I'm no longer paranoid that maybe he's up because he's truly hungry. I'm not sure what happened. Maybe he needed his own bedroom, a spot away from the window, but he's sleeping. I know children are many things but consistent is not one of them so this might change tomorrow- but I'll deal with that when it comes and dare not hope for more than I'm currently getting.

And on that note. . . he's up?! Seriously?! Does he have a smart phone smuggled in his diaper and now knows CIO is being tabled for the time being [read: time being, kid!]. Still, this is better than it was. And for that I am grateful.

**edited to say: Five wakings last night. Oh well. It was a nice weekend at least. Pardon me while I grab some chai and manually crank my eyes open.

14 comments:

Anonymous said...

woo hoo! :-D

kmina said...

Fantastic!
Incidentally, this is what I call a good night as well. Which I also enjoyed last night, btw. Perhaps it was a star alignment thing? ;-)

I find that G does sleep better in his own room, where it is a bit quieter and darker. And when he has a 'good poop' day. And when I rub the gel against his gums right before he goes to sleep.

Please keep us posted. ;-)

'Murgdan' said...

I think it will only keep getting better....with old school up all nighters thrown in every now and then just to remind us to be grateful for our 'up 3 times a nighters'. Though Gabriel, who also reads my blog, slept from 8pm to 3am last night (YYYYYAAAAAHHHHH!), (aside from his 10pm 30 minute laughing and Mommy face-grabbing session).

So happy you got a few nights sleep!

Aisha said...

Anon, lol, thanks

Kmina, well it lasted 48 hours for me, but I have hope- its possible- it can be done! Maybe?

Murgdan- I hope so- 8am- 3am? WowOW?????????? That sounds so beautiful I am speechless.

raisingbrainchild said...

You're right! You know that he can do it, and that's half the battle. At least with Bear, she'd try out the "sleeping longer stretches" gig for a few nights, and then she'd go back to "party all nighters", and then, eventually, she'd start sleeping for longer and longer stretches. On a funny note, I do think that our kids read our blogs...the night I posted about Bear being a great sleeper, well, she wasn't. Fortunately, she's back to the status quo. I can only hope for you that more sleep becomes the status quo for both Waleed and you! Good luck!

Banshee said...

I think my Little Wiggler reads my blog too! And eavesdrops on my phone calls. Anytime I'd say something about improvement in the sleep dept. - I could be sure that that night would be a HUGE 3 steps backwards. I feel for you on the sleep thing - and ultimately I think you guys just need to decide what path you want to take with your family, and stick with that. Whatever it is, as long as your consistent, will probably work. Only you guys are living it, so only you guys can make that call. :)

*I didn't read the other comments so have no idea what was said, but I'm sure it was probably much more practical advice! I hope so anyway. I have none really to give...Wiggles had a LOOOOT of trouble sleeping for his first 16.5 weeks. Then...it started to get better. And it was nothing we were doing. So there we are. :)

Aisha said...

Raising- thank you for giving me hope :)
Banshee- just being able to relate is more helpful than you know- thanks for relating!

iamstacey said...

argh, all the things I have to look forward to...
I'm glad Waleed is finally feeling better, though! Poor baby!

katery said...

well it's a good sign that he slept well for a few days, he could very well be transitioning into sleeping like that on a regular basis! louise did that at first, slept good and then not so good and then good again, keep hope alive!!! i don't even want to tell you about louise's sleeping habits, you will hate me!!

Aisha said...
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Aisha said...

Stacey- but its worth it :) Don't let me let you lose sight of that :)

Kate, yes- its possible! I'm clinging to that as tight as I can- and yes- don't share how great Louise sleeps, lol. I might get too jealous :) But seriously, at least reading my plight you can feel thankful for your good sleeping babe?! :-)

katery said...

i actually think we're in the minority aisha, it seems like most of the moms who's blogs i read have sleeping issues. i hope waleed starts sleeping good very soon so you can sleep too!
i don't know what the deal is, but i still can't leave you comments when i'm using firefox, although i can comment on other blogger.com blogs with it, so weird!!!

Anonymous said...

I know this seems like a 'duh' comment--but is your chai decaf? Might be the caffeine keeping W up at night?

theimpatientoptimist said...

I really hope this is a sign that he's growing out of his frequwnt waking. I definitely think that it's a stop-start process. The fact that he had two ot three good nights in a row means that more good night might be just around the corner.

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